In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 5's, the observer, in relationships.
Type 5 in love: Observers need a partner who won't try to force them to go out to places they hate: crowded parties, loud environments or basically anything requiring a lot of social interaction.

You will also prefer someone who is a good listener, as you'll get irritated with having to repeat yourself. It takes a LOT of effort for you to put your thoughts into words in the first place.

When you are feeling uncomfortable in social settings, others may perceive you as being "aloof" or as judging them, but really it's your anxiety that keeps you quiet.

You need time and space to process your emotions so you'll need a partner who respects that and allows you that time and space. Just make sure to communicate that need to them so they don't see it as rejection.

If you don't know what your number is, you can do the Rheti short version via http://www.9types.com/rheti/index.phpor the long version through the Enneagram institute.

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