Small talk is a test
Matthias J Barker Matthias J Barker
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 Published On May 22, 2024

Here’s why small talk can save you from betrayal or being abandoned:

Most would rather skip the boring stuff and be real, I get it. But this overlooks the #1 reason we need small talk: It's not just about the weather; it's how you tell if some will betray you or if they are trustworthy.

When you’re talking about boring things, watch to see if they can be normal, express empathy, pay attention, listen, and ask real questions. Think of it like you’re dipping your toes in the water. Small talk is all about finding something you have in common (even if it’s boring or obvious) and then getting more and more real with every passing moment.

If they:

start daydreaming and stop looking at you
ask the same question over and over (like they forgot)
talk the whole time (and doesn’t realize your bored)
doesn’t ask YOU questions…

They’re not trustworthy. If they act that way about the weather, it’s a good clue they will act that way about your breakup, your job, your family, or your depression. Screen cap and share this. People need to hear it.

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