This video is here to support you in building firmer boundaries so that you can stay in touch with who you are and what really matters to you within your relationships. Right off the bat, one of the first things we flesh out is the difference between internal and external boundaries. Think of this as the difference between just talking the talk or walking the walk. This video is here to help you WALK THE WALK. To do that, we dive into 4 key strategies that I have identified in my work, research, and personal experience for how to build stronger, easier, and longer-lasting boundaries. These strategies are here to help you stay present with your own needs and feelings, release guilt and judgment over your needs, and strengthen your self-trust and self-worth.

As you practice tuning into your own needs and feelings, here is a list of universal needs and feelings for you to reference. I hope this makes putting words to your needs and feelings feel a little bit easier: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-...

⏱️Timestamps⏱️
00:00 Welcome
00:36 Most Important Type of Boundary
03:59 Questions to Test Your Boundaries
06:00 4 Strategies to Build Stronger Internal Boundaries
07:41 Strategy 1: Take Back Your Attention
09:45 "He's Just Not That Into You" Example
12:56 Strategy 2: Stay with How You Feel
15:30 What Happens When You Stay with How You Feel?
18:03 Strategy 3: Look for the Needs Behind Your Feelings
19:38 Needs Behind Feeling Lonely Example
21:54 Strategy 4: Find Many Ways to Meet Your Needs
24:18 Building a Support Network
27:34 More Healing Strategies to Come

Sources consulted in this video:
Rosenberg, M. B. (2015). Nonviolent communication: a language of life. 3rd edition. Encinitas, CA, PuddleDancer Press

Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. (2012). Acceptance and commitment therapy: The process and practice of mindful change. The Guilford Press.

Hope For The Journey. (2023). Understanding the EMDR window of tolerance and its significance in PTSD treatment. https://hopeforthejourney.org/underst....

Linehan, M. (2015). DBT® skills training manual (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Rosenberg, M. B. (2015). Nonviolent communication: a language of life. 3rd edition. Encinitas, CA, PuddleDancer Press