you cant judge a book by its cover. What, besides the pronoun, do other people do, that validates who you are? How do you validate others?..........I do believe that the more self empowered we are the more control we have over or physical appearance, being sociable creatures, we want to be part of the bigger picture, validation can give us strength to be motivated , to move and adapt, sometimes we have to have the strength of self validation to live worth while existences.