What do you need to do when your wife doesn't love you anymore? This is a very deep topic. Watch Paul explains why this is happening, and why it's not too late for you to save your marriage and for you to make your wife fall in love with you again.

I'm going to help you with this but we got to take some things into the big picture and take
some things out of the big picture. Let's pretend that you're going, "Oh yeah, my wife really loves me." The opposite of how you're feeling now and let's ask and let's be dispassionate. Let's be really objective what's making her love you.

First of all, I don't think that it's that she doesn't love you anymore. I think she doesn't love how you have been treating her. So, going back to what I just said, what are the conditions that made her a "fall in love with you?" This is a very deep topic because on one level, love is between the souls so it has nothing to do with your behavior or her behavior that love exists but we're human beings. We live in a body. We have a mind. We have these emotions. We have to deal with we have habits, anger, all these things. And so, what happened that allowed her to open her heart to you, we're going way back before you got married, was how you treated her. Where you would say at the peak, "Wow, she really loves me."

I've really done all of these things right, and what were those things?

Those things were a consideration. You were amazingly considerate of her feelings, of her moods of her needs, of her desires. You cared, you are respectful in your consideration and well you should be. She's a human being. She has free will. It's really weird if you think about although it's totally accepted in our society -- it's really to impose upon another person's free will and in our society, we do it all the time. But you didn't do that when you were courting her. You were really respectful of her space, of her thoughts, of her feelings -- you cared.

Now maybe you made yourself care because you wanted to win her over but the point is from her point of view she wasn't thinking, "Oh, he's just trying to win me over." You sold her on you being a person who she could depend on, who she could trust, who she could rely on to be
on her side.

What are you doing now?

Arguing, bickering, complaining, putting her down, using the power of your male energy to subdue her -- certainly the opposite of what you did before you got married and that's it. It's really that simple. Love is a very spiritual and deep thing -- it's love. There's no way to undermine love itself because it is spiritual, it's bigger than the both of you but your behavior, your behavior that shields your heart that comes between the two of you on that level that is most important where you want to have intimacy. Intimacy is the connection between the two of you and you've been blowing it with your
behavior.

What do you do?

You can't sit down and go, "Okay, from now on I'm going to be good," because you can't. You have fallen into habits think of them as these big holes, deep holes and you don't get out of them because you don't even work at it. It's not so easy so here's the prescription. The prescription is make a list of all the ways in which you treated her before you got married and alongside it. Put the opposite of how you're treating her now.

Watch the video for more.


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