One of the simplest ways to increase your perceived charisma is…⁣
to PAUSE!⁣
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Studies demonstrate that charismatic people are supportive, sensitive, nurturing, and considerate. Not only that, they also exude a mysterious, almost intangible quality that’s a unique combination of quiet confidence, credibility and presence. ⁣
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When they enter a room, people look.⁣
When they talk, people want to listen.⁣
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And the best part about charisma is that you can develop it. ⁣
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One simple way to develop charisma through your presence and perceived confidence starts with how you communicate. ⁣
Next time you’re interacting with someone, see if you can pause for 2-3 seconds before responding. ⁣
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I call it the 3SP - 3 Second Pause.⁣
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Of course, you’ll still want to maintain eye contact so they know you’re paying attention, and you want to have an engaged look on your face - a blank stare will probably raise some eyebrows and might even prompt an “are you ok??”… You can even take a small breath before you speak so you ‘audience’ knows something’s coming…⁣
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This is a particularly useful skill when in interviews, on panels or when presenting in public and answering questions. ⁣
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Have you ever seen anyone use this and what did you think? ⁣
Or have you used it? How did you find it? 👇⁣
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-House, R. J., & Howell, J. M. (1992). Personality and charismatic leadership. The Leadership Quarterly, 3(2), 81-108.⁣
-De Cremer, D., & Van Knippenberg, D. (2002). How do leaders promote cooperation? The effects of charisma and procedural fairness. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(5), 858.⁣
-Tskhay, K. O., Zhu, R., Zou, C., & Rule, N. O. (2018). Charisma in everyday life: Conceptualization and validation of the General Charisma Inventory. Journal of personality and social psychology, 114(1), 131.



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