Stage 1: Family Tension
In this initial stage,
• The parent may struggle to let go of their role as the primary caregiver, leading to overinvolvement in the adult child's life.
• This can look like excessive control, micromanaging , or emotional manipulation.
• Boundaries between parent and child may be blurred, hindering the adult child's ability to assert their independence and make their own decisions. And when they try to they are made to feel guilty
• Adult children feel they need to please their parents or are not honoring if they have an honest conversation.
• Expectation of what each person Should Do but not really having a conversation about it Example: watching and helping with grandchildren or with finances.
• The end result: As these above situation and expectation are happening there is a slow buildup of resentment and possibly unforgiveness.
• Individual needs are not met
• When they do communicate it is not done well and leads to more anger or avoidance.

These are all warning signs and if you see them this is the time to act. You can choose to address the issue or at least begin to work on yourself or avoid and think it will just go away.

Ask yourself this question:
"Am I ignoring family issues that need to be resolved?"

In Stage 1 Family tension….. everyone is still gathering and talking but if this continues things usually will not get better but will get worse.
But if left like this is can go to Stage 2: Family Fracture which I will talk about in my next video