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It’s Lisa Bilyeu here with an interesting and unique episode of Women of Impact today about infidelity, taking a deep dive into both sides of a relationship when infidelity and cheating occurs.

From the outside they looked like a perfect couple, but the reality was that behind closed doors, Sam was addicted to porn, cheating on his wife Nia, and lying to her DAILY.

Now, if you’re not familiar with Sam & Nia, they have a HUGE YouTube following for their Christian family channel, and about 10 years ago, Sam’s name was leaked as a user of the marriage affairs dating website, Ashley Madison.

Now if you’re scratching your head thinking “that couple can’t POSSIBLY still be together”, think again homie!! Not only are Sam & Nia still together, they agree their relationship is BETTER today than it ever was before Nia found out about Sam’s secrets and lies!!

But that didn’t come easy, it took hard work, and in this interview Sam & Nia are answering alllll of my questions about how they went from the truth coming out, to where they are now – nearly 10 years later and STILL married – through the eyes of Sam, the cheater, and Nia, the powerful, strong, badass wife and life partner that stayed.

We also talk about:
What went through Sam’s head when he was lying
How Nia ignored her gut instincts that something was “off” in their relationship
The steps they took to process their emotions after Nia found out the truth
What they EACH had to do to fight for their marriage, forgive, heal, and actually improve their relationship

Chapter Markers:

💔 [00:00] Emotional sobriety, trust, and deceit
⛪️ [14:35] Guidance to a life-changing decision
👩‍❤️‍👨 [22:47] The gradual shift from hurt to forgiveness and unity
❤️‍🩹 [34:19] How they healed after cheating
❤️ [52:13] Seeking support to avoid resentment
👰‍♀️ [1:08:27] How to be a safe place as a wife

AMAZING QUOTES FROM SAM & NIA:

"We hate the sin, we are against the sin, and we are on the same team."
– NIA

"He was very firm in just making sure that I knew that it wasn't me and that he was there in the long haul to fix this with me."
– NIA

“He would tell me daily how he did something opposite of what he would have done in the past, just so that I could see that he had changed, that I was safe."
– NIA

"I think just really being respectful of each other in a crowd, in a public setting is another boundary, because we just remain a united team, a united front, no matter what."
– NIA

"But what really, really, like, sealed the deal for the new movie reel was when I started to have old, specific memories replaced very specifically."
– NIA

"I always fought off [honesty] because it's so much easier just to go with my fleshly tendencies to continue down that path and keep choosing whatever I desired."
– SAM

"For the most part, my life took a complete turn 180, and I had to live a whole different way during that healing period."
– SAM

"Just because I put in the work, like, I couldn't have done it if I didn't submit to Jesus. Because if I found my identity and, like, everything I'd done, all that shame and then Nia's anger, if I found my identity in those things, I wouldn't have had the strength to do it. And I see other men, they don't have the strength to fight for it because they're not planted in the word of God."
– SAM


So if you’ve been in a situation where you have been betrayed, and you’re questioning if you should fight for the relationship or leave, this episode is for you!!

A betrayal can either break you or make you stronger. Only you know what is right for you, but hopefully listening to this will help you make the decision that you think is best for you and your relationship.

AMAZING QUOTES FROM SAM & NIA:

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