So first let’s look at some traits of emotional immaturity:
1. highly defensive and or reactive (shut down) - becomes emotionally reactive and takes things personally, tdo things without thinking long term consequence (silent treatment is a form of Non verbal abuse)
2. Everything centers around them…: It always come back to them “but imagine how I feel” To realize the world does not revolve around you is a big step in the process of maturity.
3. Often blame others for what they do or how they feel: to grow is to understand that we are the only ones responsible for what we do or not do. We recognize our mistakes, acknowledge them and learn from thes. Also, learn to repair and ask for forgiveness
4. Rarely listen to other people’s advice look for other people to solve their problems, they always ignore their ADVICE.
5. Dismissive of feelings/lack empathy for others - “Your so sensitive” - “you can’t take a joke” - minimizing how the other person feels
6. Black and white thinking - it’s either with all good or all bad .. no middle ground or ability to compromise
7. Takes everything personally: everything is a personal attack and a threat.